What went wrong?

Yesterday I gave my 9-year-old a bad math task.

I actually knew it was a bad math task, or at least a bad math task for her. It was the most unsurprising thing in the world when it failed, but I still gave it to her.

In my math classes for elementary teachers, some of my favorite moments are when we deconstruct a piece of math that went wrong. I especially love it when students begin to volunteer wrong answers: “I tried this, and I don’t know why it didn’t work,” or “I think this is wrong, but I want to know why it’s wrong.” We learn so much from these mistakes and wrong turns, and I think the same is true of teaching. I learn when I do something that works, but often I learn a lot more when I do something that doesn’t work. So in that spirit, I’m going to share the thing I did with my own child that didn’t work.

My goal was to help her expand her set of strategies for mental arithmetic. She has excellent strategies, by the way (I love sharing them with my students), but there are still times she labors over a calculation when I think there’s probably a more efficient method within her reach. Maybe, I thought, with a little help she could reach those methods.

So. The task. I decided to see if I could teach her a round-to-10-and-adjust strategy. That is, we can take away 9 by first taking away 10, and then adding 1. I threw together a Desmos activity, because kids like computers. (In retrospect, I think I already sensed that I was heading for failure, and I thought, technology! THAT will make her want to do this!) I did not spend very long making the task, which I offer not as an excuse, but…well, okay, maybe I am offering it as an excuse. Here it is, if you want to see it. If you don’t, here’s what you would see if you clicked on the link:

  • A page guiding her through the strategy with the problem 13 – 9
  • A page where she could draw the strategy on the number line
  • A page where she could practice the strategy with other “subtract 9” problems
  • Two pages extending the strategy (what if we subtract 8? what about 11?)
  • A page of mixed practice

Again, I knew that this was not going to go well. But also, sometimes my students know that a strategy for solving a math problem isn’t going to work and they do it anyway. I think anyone in a problem-solving situation (mathematicians, teachers, parents, or basically anyone) sometimes knows something isn’t going to work, and yet does it anyway, not (always) because we’re irrational, but because trying a bad strategy can still provide us with good information.

I gave the task to my daughter, and as I watched my bad math task land with the thud it deserved, what I found most interesting was not that it didn’t work, but how it didn’t work.

What Went Wrong

The first indication that the task was going to flop came with the first sentence in the activity:

“Oh, it’s 4!” she said almost immediately, definitely not using her fingers.

“How did you do that?” I asked, and she explained her strategy (she knew 13 was 3 away from 10, and 9 was 1 away from 10, so she put together the 3 and the 1), but the point is not her strategy. The point is that:

Problem 1: My task was going to offer her a strategy she didn’t need.

She already knew how to solve 13 – 9, almost without thinking. She didn’t need me to tell her how to solve it.

Still, I pressed on. “Well, let’s continue and see another way you could solve the problem.” She willingly clicked on the buttons on the page that guided her through the subtract-10-then-add-1 strategy, and at the end she nodded. “That makes sense.”

I actually had expected that maybe it wouldn’t make sense to her. Encouraged, I moved on to the next slide, where she got to draw how the strategy worked on the number line. The picture she drew gave me the next indication that the task was not working:

Anya’s drawing

This was a perfect drawing of why 13 – 9 i s the same as 3 + 1. It just wasn’t the way that I was thinking about why 13 – 9 is the same as 3 + 1. I had designed the task around a take-away perspective (13 take away 9); Anya was thinking of subtraction from a difference perspective (the difference between 9 and 13). There was a mismatch between how she was thinking about the problem, and how my task “wanted” her to think about the problem.

Problem 2: There was no reason inherent to the task for her to engage with the intended learning goal.

With her strategy working out just fine for her, she zoomed through most of the next screen of practice problems. Then she got to the last problem on the screen, 25 – 9. Without hesitating, she wrote 26, then looked at me for approval.

“Great!” I said. “You got them all right except for that one.” I pointed to the last problem.

She stared at it for a moment, then deleted her answer and wrote 15.

“Um,” I said.

“14?” she asked. “13?” She started laughing. We both started laughing. She was totally just guessing now.

“Do you remember the strategy?” I asked, trying to salvage the task.

“Oh,” she said, and wrote 14.

“Remember? Subtract 10 and add 1?”

“That’s what I did,” she said. “Subtract 10 is 15. Then add 1.”

It wasn’t that she hadn’t learned the new strategy at all. It was that, while her strategy made sense to her, mine was just a set of steps. When her strategy was challenged by a harder problem, instead of thinking it through, she just tried to do what (she thought) I’d told her to do: subtract 10 (25 – 10 is 15), add 1 (which she interpreted as “subtract one more”).

Problem 3: Handing her a strategy without building understanding encouraged her to let go of her own number sense.

I think the fact that she ultimately landed on 14 was quite telling, because it was so obviously just following steps. She subtracted 10 (25 – 10 is 15), and then “added” 1 more to the amount she was subtracting (take away 1 more is 14). She was following the steps to the letter, but without understanding the intent it was a bit like a game of telephone where the message evolves as it passes from one person to the next.

And I think all of these together imply what was at the root of why the task just did not work:

My task failed to build on what she brought to the table.

I think I could find a better way. Will I? I don’t know. It’s summer break, and getting to do more math with my kids is one of the things I love about the summer, but there are lots of other things we do with our time, and teaching this particular strategy is more a curiosity than a priority for me. Helping her have good experiences with math is much more important than learning and using a particular strategy. But I do think considering what went wrong is worthwhile as I work on preparing lessons for the upcoming semester, and I hope that sharing might be worthwhile to someone else.

If you have a story of a failed task or lesson or teaching moment, in the classroom or with your own kids, I’d be interested in hearing it as well.

Squares into Thirds

My daughter, a third grader, recently told me a story about a fractions task that was challenging for the kids in her class: How can you split a square into thirds?

To me, the task of dividing a square into thirds seems quite simple. This is how I would do it:

So when my daughter told me that the task was hard for her 3rd grade class, I had to step back from the immediate, easy mental image that came to my own mind and try to imagine what this task might look and feel like to a third grader. 

That’s challenging. I have few, if any, memories of my own experience with math as a third grader. But I am aware of a similar task that seems to be equally challenging for adults: How can you split an equilateral triangle into fourths?

When I give this problem to my college students, it stumps many of them completely, and there are few students who see it immediately. The ah-ha moments come slowly, but they do come, and eventually most students will produce something like this on their paper:

What I find most insightful about this task, though, is what students try that doesn’t work, and a correct solution that students almost never try:

What students try that doesn’t work:What students almost never try:

Here’s my interpretation of this. First, students have a relatively stable understanding of fourths as “half, and then half again”. The most common version of this is to cut a shape in half vertically and horizontally (the “plus sign” version of a fourth). Second, students have an image of fractions as being composed of congruent pieces, or pieces that are the same size and shape. When students produce a “half, and then half again” image like the two above, it looks wrong to them. They don’t say, “Look, I did it!” They say, “I don’t think this works,” or, “Is this right?” When they come up with the congruent triangle version, they immediately know it works because it fits with their mental image of equal parts.

But the image on the right, the one they don’t come up with, also looks wrong to them, even though it’s not. The four pieces have exactly the same area (which you can easily prove if you understand that the all four triangles have the same height and base length), but they don’t all look the same. They are not congruent—they are the same size, but not the same shape.

In other words, their mental image of fourths and fractions gets in the way of completing the task.

I think something similar is going on with the third grade square task. First, just like adults have lots of mental images of fourths, but not fourths of triangles, I think kids have plenty of experience with thirds, but not thirds of squares. They see thirds of circles, of course, and even thirds of oblong rectangles, and while you’d think the leap from rectangle to square would be easy (a square is, after all, a type of rectangle), it’s not, and that may be partly because of the second point: Kids have lots of experience cutting squares into halves and fourths, and there’s just no way to halve your way to thirds.

Thirds look like this:Fractions of squares look like this:

Imagining a square cut into thirds requires as much imagination for a third grader as is required for an adult to imagine a triangle cut into fourths.

Here was my daughter’s solution:

She thought it was quite a creative solution, and she was proud of it. But when you just see it drawn on paper, it’s probably hard to tell if it’s a correct solution. In fact, if you’re expecting this:

my daughter’s solution almost certainly looks wrong. So teachers (and parents) need creativity and imagination, too, as well as good questioning and listening skills.

Here’s how my daughter described her solution: “First I drew a line to cut the square in half, but I stopped it part of the way down—more than halfway, but not all the way. Then I drew a line straight across, where I stopped the first line, so there was a rectangle at the bottom of the square and two rectangles at the top. And if you took the rectangle at the bottom of the square and cut it in half and put one half on top of the other, you would get one of the rectangles at the top of the square.”

What you see in her picture is that thirds require three pieces. But what you hear in her description is that she also understands that the pieces must all be the same size, and that she can justify how her intended image does indeed meet that requirement by deconstructing and rearranging the pieces to show that all three are all the same size, even if they’re not congruent.

One of the things I love most about mathematics, and about teaching mathematics, is how both give me the opportunity to expand my imagination, but imagination is so foreign to many of my students’ experiences with school mathematics. Do you have your own examples of mathematical problems or concepts where imagination plays a role? I’d love to hear your ideas in the comments.

One weird trick

A story

A few days ago my 3rd grader and I were walking the dog when she spontaneously began to ask our dog multiplication questions: “Charlie, what is 9 x 5?” It wasn’t entirely clear to me what my role in her imaginative game was supposed to be. Did she want me to answer for him? Was she planning on answering in Charlie’s voice? So when she asked the question again, I stalled, and said, “If you’re going to ask Charlie math questions, you need to know the answer. Do you know what 9 x 5 is?”

“Forty-five,” she said quickly.

“Wow!” I said. “That was quick! How do you know that?”

“Because,” she responded, “if it was 10 groups of 5 it would be 50, so then I take away 5 and it’s 45.”

“That’s a great strategy,” I said. “Did you learn how to do that at school, or did you figure it out yourself?”

“I figured it out myself.”

What a great strategy!

Here’s another one, from several twists and turns later in the conversation. This one is for 5 x 4: “To do 5 groups of 4, I set one of the 4’s aside, and then I do 4 + 4, which is 8, and then 8 + 8, which is 16. And then I bring back the 4 I set aside and add that and it’s 20.”

Amazing!

One weird trick

Now, I have a theory about my daughter, and there’s no way to substantiate my theory, and I am completely aware that it’s the theory I want to be true, which is maybe why I believe it. But my theory is that my daughter’s current very positive relationship with mathematics (a very recent development) is almost entirely due to “one weird trick” that we’ve been using in our home since she and her older brother were very, very young.

This is not click-bait. I’ll tell you the trick. The trick is a question:

“How do you know that?”

If I could give parents exactly one piece of advice for helping their kids learn and love mathematics, it would be to ask that question, early and often, with genuine curiosity.

My 5th grader is great at memorization, has a natural curiosity about numbers and patterns, and learns quickly when it comes to mathematics. My 3rd grader, on the other hand, has a hard time even remembering what she went up the stairs to do, is curious about a great deal of things but not particularly curious about numbers or patterns, and does everything at her own pace, which is usually slower than the adults in her life are comfortable with. In a typical classroom, none of this bodes well for her math learning, and in fact up until this year she hasn’t really cared much for school math.

But she does enjoy doing math at home with me. When I asked her about this once, in second grade, she said that at home, I always ask her how she got her answer, and listen to her. At school there are just so many other kids in the class, and no one is asking her that. 1 My interpretation of that explanation was that at school, she feels like the math is being handed down to her, and she doesn’t always understand it. At home, she feels like her thinking is centered, and that she has interesting and important things to say.

I’d like to say that, as a math teacher with a particular interest in children’s mathematics, I spend a lot of time designing cool math activities and looking for math in the world around us, and yes, I have great ambitious to do just that. But mot of the time it’s a problem here or there, a conversation on a walk with the dog, a moment after dinner going over the worksheet her teacher sent home. It’s really not about the amazing math activities we do. It’s almost all about the question.

Why does it work?

Asking “How did you do that?” or “How did you know that?” is a simple switch, but it doesn’t mean it’s a natural one. As adults, our inclination when doing math with kids is to

  • validate correct answers and correct incorrect answers, and
  • teach correct solution methods.

Changing the response also changes the entire nature of the adult-child conversation. It puts the child’s thinking first instead of the adult’s, which is a much more effective way to build a child’s confidence, support their learning, and find joy in doing mathematics. Here are some ways I have seen this with my own 3rd grader:

  • Building Confidence. A. is not the fastest mathematician in her classroom, and she is very, very quiet in class. Recently I took my college students to her school to interview children about their math strategies. I requested that my daughter be one of the children, and her teacher looked hesitant and said, “But A. never talks.” Five minutes later, A, was sitting on the floor with two complete strangers, happily solving math problems and explaining her thinking before my students could even ask.
  • Supporting Learning. My daughter is resistant to being told what to do if she doesn’t already have buy-in. If I try to tell her, “here’s my way to solve this problem,” she generally doesn’t care, and it won’t stick. But if we begin with her thinking, she’s much more excited about learning. For example, when she shared with me how she solved 9 x 5, I asked if she could do the same thing for 9 x 6, and she wasn’t sure. It took more thinking and an incorrect answer along the way, but when she got there (“Oh, it’s 54!”), she was so delighted to realize that her strategy worked for any multiplication fact with 9s.
  • Finding Joy in Mathematics. More than anything, this is fun! Last year in 2nd grade A. was supposed to regularly compete problem set worksheets for addition and subtraction within 20 at home. Initially, I did not love the idea. It was just rote practice, week after week, with no variation in the types of problems. But here’s where the “one weird trick” description is, well, weirdly appropriate. Because asking, “How did you know that?” completely transformed what could have been mathematical drudgery into something delightful. I have so much more to say about this particular experience, and maybe someday I’ll write about it, but suffice it to say now that the thing I thought would be stressful or tedious for us became, at least most of the time, a joyful experience.

How to

It’s so easy! Just ask the question, and then be genuinely curious about what you’ll find out.2

Ask the question about interesting math problems. Ask the question about math problems that don’t seem all that interesting, and see if they become interesting.

Ask the question when your child gets a wrong answer. Maybe they’ll figure out the right answer as they respond, or maybe you’ll learn something about the right ways they’re thinking even if they didn’t get all the way there.

Ask the question if you know a lot about math. Ask the question if you don’t know much about math. Your kid knows things differently than you do, and you may be surprised how much they learn.

And ask the question early and often, because this one weird trick is not a quick trick. It’s a question that works well now, but gets better with time.

  1. This is not in any way a critique of her teachers. No matter how good they might be, no teacher in a class of 29 kids can give the kind of one-on-one attention a child is going to get in the home. Which is why this is a strategy I recommend especially for parents. ↩︎
  2. Or ask a variation on the question: “How did you figure that out?” “How did you get that one so fast?” “How did you think about that?” “How did you know that…?” “Why did you choose to do it that way?” ↩︎

Interesting Mathematics

My 8-year-old was talking about doing some math this summer. “But interesting math,” he added.

“What’s something that’s not interesting math?” I asked.

“You know, like, 1 + 1. That’s not interesting.”

Well, he’d thrown down the gauntlet. So I got a piece of paper and wrote: 1 + 1 = 10. “True statement,” I told him, and then I introduced him to binary and he was engrossed in translating numbers to and from binary for the next half hour. 

Binary was the first thing that came to my mind, but binary isn’t the only way to make 1 + 1 interesting, and I have many more ideas where that came from.

What Counts as Counting?

On Wednesday we hiked to Corona Arch, just outside of Moab, Utah. The trail cuts across red rocks, too sturdy for human feet to cut a clear path, so much of the trail is marked with faded blue paint strokes every few yards. As we followed along, my 6-year-old said, “I’m counting the blue marks, but without numbers.”

“That’s impossible,” her older brother retorted. “You can’t count without numbers.”

“Yes I can,” she insisted.

“Are you noticing each mark?” I asked.

She agreed that this was what she was doing.

“But that’s not counting,” my son pressed.

“It’s like the ‘fish, fish, fish’ sketch from Sesame Street,” my husband said, and he was exactly right. In the “123 Count With Me” Sesame Street sketch (brilliantly commented on by Steven Strogatz in the New York Times), a furry monster tries to communicate a certain number of fish to Ernie as “fish, fish, fish, fish, fish, fish,” whereupon Ernie explains that a better way to communicate the quantity is with the number “six.” 

So when my daughter said she was “counting without numbers’, she was fish-fish-fishing the blue marks – noting each one, without assigning a number word. I knew what she was doing. But the dispute was about what to call what she was doing. Certainly she was engaging in a component of the counting process. I teach my college students that successful counting involves a one-to-one correspondence between words and counted objects, a consistent ordering of counting words, and a recognition that the last number said is how many there are. On the surface, she was just doing the first of these.

But I want to go deeper here, because the next thing that happened was that my son started wondering about how to say a number in binary, something that had come up the other day. In base ten, we group numbers by tens. As we count, we begin with “1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9”, but then instead of inventing a new number for one more than 9, we write 10, which means 1 ten and 0 ones. This means we can count as high as we want without continuing to invent new numbers to place in the sequence.

We don’t have to use ten, though. Various languages and writing systems have used 5, or 20, or even 60 for grouping. Binary uses 2. 1 is followed by 10, which doesn’t mean ten but rather 1 two and 0 ones. This is followed by 11 (1 two and 1 one), then 100 (1 group of two twos, or 1 four), and so on. If you count in binary, it’s still counting. 

But juxtaposing the counting without numbers discussion with the binary discussion made me wonder: what if we go still further and just count by ones? What if we called 1 thing “one”, 2 things “one one”, 3 things “one one one”, 4 things “one one one one”, and so on? Is this base one? And wouldn’t this still be counting in a sense? It’s like a tally. If I keep track of points in a game with a series of hash marks, I’m still counting points, aren’t I? If Ernie can ask, “How many fish?” and the monster can respond, “fish, fish, fish, fish, fish, fish”, and Ernie can provide him with the correct number of fish, haven’t the fish been counted? 

Granted, if you asked my daughter how many blue marks there were, she would not have been able to respond “mark, mark, mark…” with the correct number of marks. I don’t think what she was doing could actually be defined as counting. Her “counting without numbers” was not actually counting. And once I started asking my family if what she was doing was counting in base one, it became clear that I was the only one still interested in pursuing this line of thought. 

Still, I did find it intriguing that my daughter called what she was doing “counting without numbers.” Counting doesn’t stop being interesting once kids move out of preschool.

Everything is Math?

Not long ago my kindergartner was sitting at the counter finishing her breakfast toast when she pointed to two water bottles sitting in front of her. “Mama, is this math?” she asked. I tried to figure out what she was asking about. Were there number markings on one of the water bottles? I didn’t see any.

“Is what math?” I asked. 

“This,” she said, grabbing the yellow water bottle and moving it back and forth.

I stood up and walked over to see. She was looking intently at the water in the yellow bottle as it passed back and forth in front of the green one. As she did so, light shone through and turned the water in the yellow bottle green. 

“Oh,” I said, “how it changes the color?”

“Yes,” she confirmed. “Is that math?”

In retrospect I should have turned the question back to her: “Do you think it’s math?” or “Tell me why you think it might be math.” The question “What is mathematics?” is a really interesting and complicated question–we spend a whole semester talking about it in my college-level History and Philosophy of Mathematics course!

But sometimes daily life is distracting and I don’t think to ask the good questions until later. This time I just said, “Actually, what that looks like to me is science. Science and math do have a lot in common, though.” 

My second grader was listening in and he was not satisfied with my response. “But it kind of is math,” he piped up. “Because really, everything is math.”

I paused. “You’re right,” I said to him, and to my daughter. “There’s math in everything.” Because, even though I think it’s a bit more complicated than “everything is math”, so many of my college-age students tell me they never felt math was applicable to them, that math seemed unrelated to the questions that interested them. So I should want my kids to see math wherever they want to look for it, and be willing to look for it where they want to see it.

A Problem Interrupted (and thoughts on the “right” way to respond)

Yesterday I showed this picture to my kids and asked whether they thought there were more black ants or more red ants. Both of them immediately wanted to start counting the ants, but I stopped them because I was interested in how they thought about it without counting. 

My kindergarten-age daughter initially thought there were more red ants, because the arrangement looked “longer”, and indeed when she counted how many ants there were in a row, she found that the rows of red ants were longer and was satisfied that there were, indeed, more red ants. But when (with a little prompting) she counted the columns, she seemed surprised to count a longer line of black ants. She seemed more delighted than puzzled at this outcome, and was perfectly content to leave the question unresolved.

My 2nd-grade son decided pretty quickly that there were the same amount. He had seen his sister count the rows and columns, and in response to the puzzle of the different outcomes, he said, “You have to figure out how many are inside.” He then proceeded to count all the ants around the perimeter, and found 24 in both cases. “So since there’s the same amount all around,” he told me, “you know there will be the same amount inside.”

And then it was bedtime, and so I left it at that, with my daughter not knowing the answer and feeling interested but not overly invested in the question, and my son feeling quite confident in his incorrect, but very reasonable, solution. 

The fact that the conversation was interrupted gave me more time than usual to think about what happens next. Do I…

  • Have them count the number of ants to see that there are actually 49 black ants and 48 red ants?
  • Explore similar problems, with different numbers of ants?
  • Manipulate the original pictures to help them  visually see the difference between black ants and red ants?
  • See if they can create configurations of ants that push up against their initial theories?

When confronted with a “how would you respond?” question, my college students often ask, “But what is the right way to respond?” or “What is the best way to respond?” This is a hard question to answer! There are often some good ways and some not so good ways that you could respond (and sometimes a “good” way can backfire, and occasionally a “not so good” way can turn up something surprising). I don’t know that you can know the right way to respond, and sometimes you’ll experiment and it won’t go so well and then there’s always a next time.

I haven’t decided yet what direction to take (I’ve gotten lots of great ideas from folks on Twitter), but while whatever I do may or may not be “right”, I do have some general principles. I want to work with the thinking they’ve already given me rather than impose my own thinking on them. I want to spark their curiosity. I want to be flexible enough to go a different direction if that’s where their interest takes them. And I want whatever I do to happen in an environment of love and care.

Notice and Wonder

I had a small math interaction with my kindergartener yesterday while we were doing some much-needed toy decluttering. We have a collection of toy cars that she plays with occasionally, but not often enough that it makes sense to keep all of them, so I told her she could keep ten. She pulled out a handful of favorites and counted: “One, two, three.” Then she added a couple more to the pile and counted them all again: “One, two, three, four, five.” Then two more: “One, two, three, four, five, six, seven.”

“Wait,” I said, seeing an opportunity. “You have seven already, and you get to keep ten. How many more can you choose?”

“I wish you hadn’t of asked me that!” she said, with a big sigh of 5-year-old exasperation. But she took up the problem. She began holding fingers up one at a time while quietly counting them, but stopped after a moment and just held up all the fingers on one hand and two fingers on the other. Then she looked at her hands and said, “Three!”

“Great!” I said. “Go ahead and choose three more cars that you want to keep.” 

“Do you know what I did?” she asked, before she started picking up the cars. “I looked at my fingers and I saw that I had three fingers down and I knew that’s what I needed.”

This was a brief interaction…but there was so much in that interaction for me to see! 

If you spend any time in the math education world these days, you’ll probably come across the questions What do you notice? and What do you wonder? The questions, when used well, can turn a mathematical activity from a teacher-driven activity to a student-driven activity, by stirring up and amplifying students’ inherent curiosity.

But these terms, notice and wonder, are also helpful in thinking about how we as parents or caregivers interact with children around their mathematical thinking. Instead of trying too hard to direct their mathematical learning, we often do more good by developing our own curiosity about their mathematical thinking, and our ability to simply notice what is happening in a given interaction.

Here are some of the things I noticed as I watched my daughter solve this problem: 

I noticed that she was smiling when she said, “I wish you hadn’t of asked me that!” Her big performative sigh told me that she knew I was asking her to do something she considered harder than simply counting the cars over and over until she reached ten. But this is a child who will not do something that she doesn’t want or have to do, and the smile told me she was up for the challenge.

I noticed that she didn’t count out all seven fingers. She started to, but quickly realized that she could just hold up five and two. This is a new development. She’s been counting on her fingers enough now that she is beginning to know what seven looks and feels like. Seven is more than just a count that ends at seven. It is also a relationship: a five and a two. 

I noticed that she also didn’t count the three or the ten. Once she had seven fingers up, she could see everything she needed to solve the problem: seven fingers up, three down, and ten in all. This is another relationship: seven fingers up and three down forms a ten. But also, she didn’t have to model all the actions of the story. She could look at a static image of seven and three and ten and relate it to a story with a beginning (cars she’s already chosen), middle (cars she still needs to choose), and end (all the cars she gets to keep).

I noticed that she explained her thinking unprompted. I almost always ask my kids, “How did you think about that?” and my husband does this, too. It’s just something we do in our household. So it wasn’t the explaining that was noteworthy here, but rather the fact that when I didn’t ask her (because my adult brain was already moving back the goal of decluttering the play space), she launched into an explanation anyway. It’s no longer just a parent-driven part of a math interaction–she now expects and wants to share her thinking.

One of the best things we can do to lay the groundwork for a love of mathematics is to notice what our children are thinking and seeing and doing (not just what we want them to think or see or do), to wonder with them, and to truly experience the wonder of watching them. When we approach our mathematical interactions with children with genuine curiosity, we see more, and children see that we see them.